Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been with my lady for almost nine years, and she proposed to me in July. It came out of nowhere because I had just caught her cheating on me. I was about to break up with her, and she hit me with a proposal. I haven't told her yes or no because we have a lot of unresolved issues.
When I first met her, it was at a strip club. She wasn't a dancer, but she was dating one, and so was I. We found out that we were messing with the same girls, so we all would hook up. I took my girl out a few times, and we decided we'd leave the stripper alone and try to be monogamous. That lasted about six months before I found out she was cheating on me with a guy she works with. We took a break, and I started dating a lot of other women.
I was in my mid-20s, and so was she. She told me she was ready to settle down again, so this time, we got a place together. I hoped that she would be faithful to me because I had gotten tired of threesomes and wild sex capades. I took on an executive role at work and was ready to be with her. Everyone in my inner circle said she wasn't the one to settle down with, but she was my rock and had been there with me through a lot of ups and downs.
Come to find out, she's my rock, but she's also a cheater and a liar. One of my best friends showed me proof of her trying to sleep with him, and I got mad at him. Now that I understand how she really is, I apologized to him, and we're slowly becoming close again. This woman has my heart all twisted up, and I think I would end up in an open marriage if I agreed to go through with this. I just don't know if she's got all the cheating out of her system.